Introduction:
What’s standing between you and crafting a college essay that truly captures your unique story?
Is it the looming fear of failure, the never-ending cycle of procrastination, or the overwhelming uncertainty of where to begin?
These obstacles might seem daunting, but I’ve learned from both my own experiences as a writer and coach that every challenge is an opportunity for growth.
As the Stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius once said, “The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.”
This philosophy has shaped how I approach personalized coaching, helping students reframe obstacles as gateways to success—much like my own journey of overcoming resistance in writing.
Step 1: A Personalized Approach to Overcoming Resistance
Resistance is universal when it comes to creativity and writing.
Steven Pressfield, in his famous book The War of Art, describes resistance as that invisible force that prevents us from reaching our full potential.
When coaching students like Aisha, I’ve seen firsthand how resistance—whether it’s fear of failure or perfectionism—blocks progress.
Through personalized coaching, I help students break through that resistance by meeting them where they are. Aisha, for example, came to me unsure of how to express her story authentically in her college essay.
By taking a tailored approach, we identified the root of her hesitation and worked on strategies to reframe writing as an act of empowerment rather than a burden.
“What stands in the way becomes the way,” said Aurelius. Obstacles, like writer's block, aren’t roadblocks—they’re opportunities to dig deeper and find a more profound, authentic voice.
Step 2: From Fear to Progress—The Growth Mindset in Action
Writing isn’t about achieving perfection, it’s about learning and growing.
This idea ties directly into Dr. Carol Dweck’s research on the growth mindset, which emphasizes the importance of believing that abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work.
In Aisha’s case, she often felt like her writing wasn’t “good enough.”
Instead of aiming for a flawless first draft, I encouraged her to shift her mindset:
"It's not about being perfect, but about getting better."
Over time, she began to approach her college essay as a process of continuous improvement.
Like Jordan Peterson says in his book 12 Rules for Life, “Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.”
This helped Aisha focus on her personal growth rather than comparing her writing to that of her peers.
With this shift in mindset, her fear of failure gradually transformed into confidence.
Step 3: Tailored Strategies for Success
No two students are the same, and that’s why personalized feedback is critical to essay success.
Each essay I coach is a reflection of the student’s unique experiences and goals.
Whether it’s overcoming writer’s block, refining tone, or understanding what college admissions officers are looking for, my feedback is tailored to individual needs.
For Aisha, we worked through multiple drafts, focusing not only on crafting her story but also on making her voice shine. I guided her with strategies that went beyond the basics.
"Compare yourself to who you were yesterday" became our guiding principle, ensuring that she tracked her personal progress rather than worrying about how her work stacked up to others’.
Colleges like Harvard University emphasize that admissions essays should showcase authenticity, growth, and resilience.
This is what personalized coaching can do—help students go beyond the superficial and dive deeper into their stories.
Step 4: The Importance of Values and Personal Vision
An often overlooked aspect of writing a powerful college essay is getting clear on your personal values.
When I coach students, I encourage them to take time to reflect on what values have come to define them.
This process not only makes their essays more compelling but also connects them to their authentic selves.
In Aisha’s case, we did a value card sorting exercise to help her identify her top three values: integrity, community service, and lifelong learning.
Once she had these values in mind, we revisited her essay draft and connected those values to the story she wanted to tell.
We aligned her narrative with her passion for social entrepreneurship and her dream of attending a college where she could continue making an impact.
Conclusion: From Resistance to Mastery
In the end, personalized coaching isn’t just about improving a college essay—it’s about personal growth, discovering one’s values, and building a compelling narrative that resonates with admissions officers.
Through each draft, revision, and breakthrough, students like Aisha not only improve their writing but also gain clarity about their goals and potential.
Your challenges—whether it’s writer’s block, fear of failure, or uncertainty—are stepping stones to success.
As Marcus Aurelius wisely said, “What stands in the way becomes the way.”
By the way, this is one of my all-time favorite quotes that has gotten me through all kinds of collegiate and career challenges and an essential understanding that has literally taken me around the world!
It's now something I try to pass on to those I teach and advise.
Personalized coaching can help you turn those challenges into triumphs.
Are you ready to take your college essay from a task to a triumph?
Let’s work together to craft a personal narrative that stands out and showcases your strengths.
Email me at endgameacademics@gmail.com to schedule your free 45-minute strategy session.
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Let’s unlock your potential!
Brandon
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